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Job hunting is like using a dating app as an ugly person
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Just a random thought I had. Had zero luck with dating apps and sites in the past, and job hunting just felt so similar.
Top Comment: Yeah its alot like tinder thats why when I get a rejection I'm like awe at least they responded!
Online Dating is exactly like Job Hunting. Change my mind.
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You send out 50 resumes, applications and right swipes. 40 of them don't ever reply. Maybe the position was already filled or the posting was old and hasn't been updated in a month.
Out of the 10, 5 will get back to you expressing interest but ghost you after a couple messages. The other 5 will be interested and schedule an interview/date.
Out of the 5 interview dates, 2 will have potential and want to schedule a 2nd interview date, 1 will immediately send a rejection email back, 1 will be rejected by you for not being a good fit, and the last will blindside you with a rejection email after what was supposedly a great interview.
For the two 2nd dates, one will actually be full of red flags: High turnover or low morale, and the other will offer you a job/relationship.
You might have some success with job fairs /bars but that requires putting on a suit and looking your best. Then again you're competing with all the other people they've already talked to and received resumes / numbers from.
I'm currently in the "Sending out resumes and receiving no replies" portion.
Top Comment: Also if you talk about salary too early they will think all you want is a casual relationship and terminate the interview process Edit: salary is sex guys. You don’t ask about salary in the first round HR interview and you don’t ask about sex on the first date.
Dating app profile - job title | Wall Street Oasis
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Job dating : on recrute des profs ! (@Sanaga_Dessins)
Main Post: Job dating : on recrute des profs ! (@Sanaga_Dessins)
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Tout les boomers EVER : OUI MAIS VACANCES SCOLAIRES RRRRREEEEEEEEEE.
Best jobs for meeting new people?
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What are some jobs that give you an opportunity to meet new people and build some rapport? People say don't shit where you eat but honestly most people do - my grandparents and my parents met at work, and most of my friends met their partners at work. I find that relationships at work are actually pretty unique because you're able to be a little more yourself than you are on a night out or party - or at least I find it easier to gauge people's actual personalities at work.
Even just part time/casual jobs that I could pick up on weekends or intermittent work.
I always thought a tour guide would be a good job for meeting new groups of people and then if you really seem to hit it off with someone in the group you could suggest meeting up for a coffee, but maybe that's just wishful thinking.
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This is an absolutely terrible idea dude. How about you get a job and attract women because it’s a good job
Post phd job decisions... and dating?
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I'm graduating soon from my PhD. I'm 29 (female) and I didn't date at all during the PhD. I think the issue was mainly that I wasn't really able to find compatible people in my city/school. I'm also in a male dominated program and honestly even though the odds should have been in my favor, most of the guys I met were very condescending and on the whole I think it just made me even less open to dating because I had so many bad interactions.
I have a job offer in the same city for a very good research job, as well as a postdoc opportunity in a new city. I'm not completely sure if the new city would be better in terms of dating, but at least it would be a change... On the other hand, my (non-single) friends think I'm crazy for even considering this because the job offer in my current city is so good.
I kind of feel like my friends (most of whom are in committed LTRs) don't really understand why I'm placing so much importance on the dating part, but I really think it's been very hard for me to find a person in my current city and I'm just not sure if it's a good idea to spend any more time here than necessary. (I also just don't like the city that much.) On the other hand, the job offer is really very good and honestly if it weren't for the location I'd completely take it. I'm also not really sure the new city will be that much better in terms of finding similar people. It's a large university but it's pretty much a college town so I'd be mostly trying to date within the university, and since I'll be a postdoc I'll probably be limited to dating other postdocs.
Has anyone else had to make this type of decision? Any advice or input for me? Thanks in advance.
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University life can be a bubble. You will probably be surprised by the people you meet at your new job, were you to stay in your city. Still, there's nothing wrong with prioritizing your personal life, and a change of scenery might be what you need after so long in one little college town. Personally I'd follow the money and just try to meet new people/widen my dating pool, but it's up to you.
do men care about what a woman's job is ?
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What I mean by that is do they care about how much a woman makes or how steady her job is? I'm not talking about if she does only fans or anything of that nature I mean more like if she works at a low paying job that's not that great for example childcare . How important is a woman's job when dating.
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I do. I hope she makes 6 figures so I can retire and be a trophy husband lmao
when you date a person does his/her job matter to you?
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Is it a dealbreaker? Does his/her job intimidate you or turn you off? I am talking about all jobs that are legal.
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Men, how much does a woman’s career or job matter to you?
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For example, would you date someone who makes minimum wage or has a low paying job? Or would you prefer to be with someone who has a prestige career and a high income?
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Should I not be dating until I get a job?
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Basically I (24m) finished up my masters in the spring and took a couple months off to get healthy as by the end I was suffering from severe burnout. Been job searching since July which has been incredibly difficult as it’s a bad time for my field right now. My days are full of job applications and networking during the day. At this point I’m most likely going to switch careers since it doesn’t look to be getting any better any time soon. But regardless, I always have well-defined short term and long term career goals and I’m not short for money as I worked a lot through grad school.
The problem is, I feel this has been a barrier since I’ve got back into the dating game. When what we do for a job comes up on OLD convos, I just briefly say I’m a recent graduate and just interviewing for a few positions (which isn’t false atm), but often these convos end right there or I’m unmatched immediately. When on a date, we usually end up talking career goals and I feel like mine are reasonable and doesn’t involve a ton of moving around and all that. But I’ve gone on 5 first dates now in 3 months (not all from OLD) and have yet to get a second date, which is the longest I’ve gone striking out. So I’m really just trying to connect the dots here, especially since the dates seem to go really well.
I wanted to take advantage of this free time since I haven’t been able to be social much since fall 2019, but maybe it’s a turnoff that I’m not working and should only pick it up again once I have my career established? If it was the other way around and I really liked the person, I wouldn’t be turned off at all since there’s much more to someone than just their job or their earnings. Has this been anyone else’s experience?
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I only date woman who have jobs and or careers. Is that wrong?
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It may seem shallow, but I will only date or go on dates with woman who have jobs with careers. This is simply due to that I have dated woman in the past who have had no intentions of getting jobs, and for 1. I feel like I am holding up the relationship, and 2. I am generally more attracted to people in general who are ambitious?
Am I too judgemental or is this fair?
Top Comment: 463 votes, 719 comments. It may seem shallow, but I will only date or go on dates with woman who have jobs with careers. This is simply due to that I...
What job you have does make a difference
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I got back on the ol dating app scene when covid took hold and I noticed something. After some time being back on.
I reactivated my old accounts so my profile was pretty much a time capsule of 2017.
During that time I was going to collage for animation and trying to become a movie poster designer in Santa Monica. Had no problem getting dates/matches what have you.
Fast forward to today, I stopped the whole art scene (because I basically had to kiss ass and suck dick to get anywhere without going to an expensive art school and it lost its magic) and now I’m in construction making great money.
I’m able to do way more hobbies, trips, get in amazing shape, and save for a freaking duplex at age 25. But no matches anymore. I understand this sounds materialistic rn but that’s part of the point I’m making.
So I put a play on words so that it’s not obvious that I’m in construction and, wouldnt you know it I’m getting matches again.
Thing is I thought I was just being paranoid and went on living. But really started to notice it when women started asking what i do for work. (Id like to point out I’m not ashamed at all of my current career) so when they ask, I tell.
Unfortunately, EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I get ghosted as soon as I let them know. Im confident if I had a chance to meet these ppl in person we could get along. But it looks like I’m going to have to wait until the lockdowns are over.
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If I were to take a shot in the dark as to why the discrepancy, I would guess that some occupations, despite earning a lot of dough, doesn't sound prestigious or impressive.
Connotation is significant for a lot of people. It's similar in concept to why people respond more positively to "entertainer," than for example, "magician," "breakdancer," or "Tiktok influencer."